30 conseils pour 30 années

My little devils,

Thank you all for the birthday wishes.

I will admit I am happy that this year is over as It has been one of the most challenging years of my life.

A level of pain and trauma that can’t even be explained.

But throughout those horrifying experiences you have all been the light at the end of my tunnel do you have been the constellations that guides my heart and allowed my ship to not sink. I think about all of you every day and I am so grateful to have such a beautiful and benevolent community. 🙏🤍

So if I have to squeeze the essence of the wisdom that I can share with you for this year, let’s celebrate the end of a three decade cycle with 30 advices:

1 - Don’t ever settle for anyone’s potential.

2 - Stop giving yourself less than you deserve.

3 - People know what they do and when they are @bus!ve. The benefit of the doubt doesn’t apply to everyone.

4 - trauma will never be an excuse to treat people like sh!t

5 - stop treating the people closest to you like a trauma dump

6 - having boundaries is essential to save your life.

7 - Trust your intuition, it never lies.

8 - in love, if it seems too good to be true it might be(u might be in front of a narc)

9 - burnout isn’t overworking yourself. It’s focusing on things that don’t nourish your soul.

10 - When you’re mistreated, you will mistreat the world around you.

11 - You can’t just “get over” emotional abus€

12 - trying to function while being emotionally dysregulated is like trying to drive a car with the wrong fuel.

13 - sometimes I have to let go of the people you love the most because they don’t treat you right.

14 - build a support system around you. ask for help when you need it.

15 - what people think of you as a reflection of their own awareness. Not a reflection of you.

16 - sometimes you have written all the chapters you could in the place where you are and it’s time to open a new book somewhere else.

17 - it’s OK to mourn the person you were before you got traumatized.

18 - strength isn’t being able to be emotionless. Strength is being able to be vulnerable and accountable for your actions.

19 - any excuse without change of behavior is called manipulation.

20 - everyone gets angry, but repeated pattern of anger and gaslighting is called emotional abus€

21 - if you have to Google somebody’s behavior… you’re already passed the red flags

22 - someone who truly loves you will never be able to watch you cry in pain and not care

23 - claiming you’re spiritual doesn’t make you a good person

24 - healing is the most painful and excruciating process.

25 - success isn’t about what you accomplish. Success isn’t about money or luxury items. Success is about how your actions are aligned with your values.

26 - you are not responsible for your trauma but it will be your responsibility to heal it

27 - you cannot help someone who doesn’t want to be help. you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.

28 - do for yourself what you do for others. With the same compassion, understanding, patience and care.

29 - it doesn’t need to make sense to others if it makes sense to you and it makes you happy then go for it.

30 - don’t ever underestimate your own power. By yourself you can change the lives of thousands of people. It only takes one Man to plant an entire forest.

Comment which advice is your favorite or the one you are going to apply to your life from now on.

I want to hear about you my little devils what advice would you have to give to your brothers and sisters of this beautiful soul family?

Love

Red